I’m With You…

My post on Facebook on Friday was about how letting go can be easier said than done sometimes. I had prepared that post almost a week in advance but ironically, it was just what I, myself, needed to read before my weekend activities.

I have intentionally been letting go of a lot of stuff lately. Some has been very easy. Some has required a longer line of questioning. And some has been a bit tough.

I had a few situations this past weekend that fell into that tough category. These situations required me to be very intentional and let go of what I was used to and comfortable with. I am sharing my experience with one of these situations with you to let you let you know that we are on this journey together… And to let you know that it’s more than just “stuff” that we sometimes choose to simplify…

On Saturday, I got my hair cut… A LOT. I donated 10 ½ inches to Locks of Love! I had been planning this for almost a year and a half, but when it came down to actually doing it, fears of change and letting go almost made me change my mind. In those moments of anxiety, indecisiveness and wanting to hold on to what I was familiar with, I reminded myself what my intentions had been for so long. And I reminded myself of what I knew would be gained on the other side (by others besides just me). So with my support team in place (my husband, kids and my long-time hairstylist) I proceeded as planned!

I cringed as she started cutting (trying to hold still, of course) knowing that the decision had been made (long ago) and that there was no turning back. But now that it is done, I am so thankful that I followed through with my original intentions. My heart is warmed knowing my donation will bring joy to someone who desperately needs it, my morning hair routine is simplified (saving time) and hair products will last a lot longer (saving money). In my book, that’s win-win-win!

So I want you to know that as I am encouraging you to be intentional in simplifying and letting go, I am walking the path with you! The freedom and joy I gained from this experience serves as fuel to keep me going and to keep sharing with all of you! And I know that as you continue to be intentional and work towards your life of simplicity, you, too, will find that on the other side of the tough decisions are the incredible feelings of freedom and joy.





Three months ago, on a bitterly cold and snowy day in early January, the home and store three doors down from mine started on fire and were ultimately destroyed. It was an emotional day for everyone on our block and it was one that I will not forget. Thankfully, everyone in the home was able to get out safely, but all else was lost.

The event was a vivid reminder for me that life can change in an instant. The items we spend years accumulating can be taken away from us so very quickly.   Yet, we have survived and, most importantly, life goes on without the “things”. We grieve, we shed tears and we get angry. We want to blame. We ask “why?”.

But slowly…ever so slowly…we again begin to smile…to laugh…to see a glimpse of light and hope in what is a very dark time.

We never forget the day that everything changed…that so much was lost…

But as the days…months…and years go by, we begin to see how much we gained. We see so much light. We are still here. Our stuff is not, but we are. 

As we move forward we realize that most of those things (the furniture, the clothes, the dishes) would likely have been replaced or given away after many years anyway. But when they are taken away without it being our choice, it hurts.

Almost 24 years ago, my home was lost in a tornado. This cold day in January brought all of my emotions to the surface from that hot day in August many years ago. The ones that I felt as the wind whirled by the truck I was in as the tornado hit. The ones I experienced as I tried to get into the house to find my sisters as the sky turned from dust and darkness back to sunny and deep blue.

And then the emotions I feel now, looking back, knowing that all is okay. Knowing that we move on…we are never the same, but we see rays of light that pull us forward…and we move on. We move on without those “things” that, at the time, it hurt so much to lose.

I know that intentionally letting go is much easier than having it taken from you. Most of us are attached to our things in some way. I challenge you to question this attachment. If “it” was taken from you today, would you be okay? Would you be able to see the light and move on without it?

When you let go of the attachment to your things, what space does that create for you (literally and figuratively)? What freedom now lies before you?  What dreams are now possible?

We often don’t understand the feelings and emotions of something until we’ve experienced it firsthand, but I hope this helps you to consider now what you can let go of, without having to experience the hurt. My hope is that you see only light and that you find joy in the freedom you create!